How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others?
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How to stop comparing yourself to others?
First let’s think, who are others? Are they mad or conscious? Do they wear agonizing grimaces, those negative words sound like beastly screams to your ears? Are you irrationally reacting or logically responding? Are they really doing better than you? Whether it is or it isn’t the case, that’s fine, simply use them as feedback to improve your blind spots, or learn from theirs. When others trigger us, it’s often an opportunity for fine-tuning our growth in places that we’ve left dormant — for far too long.
Do you think they genuinely are what they appear to be, are they who they said they are? Did they actually ever did what your mind chatter told you about them? Now, is your mind chatter, is your subconscious mind your friend or foe? Isn’t that the real question that answers your problem?
When following your inner compass on the way to your specific fate, do you take ephemeral signs for guidance? Did you trust your gut before jumping to a conclusion?
Doubt makes you truly human, after all, isn’t questioning if others’ truths are better than yours a sign of sanity of mind that distinguishes you from the preaching maniacs who claim to never doubt what they must absolutely dictate?
Even in the face of doubt, of competition and/or blocks — there is nothing to compare you to when you do you. In life, being you, that’s all there is to do. Be you like no one else can, then ‘’to compare’’ becomes obsolete since only you can do you.
Isn’t ‘Am I better than them?’, the question you’re asking yourself? That’s fine to do a self-evaluation from your observations and to discard others’ opinions out of your subconscious mind afterward. (See Brainwaves to clear up mind clutter.) Why care more about someone else’s standards and meaningless distractions rather than focusing on living your life according to your own values and belief system? Only you know what’s good for you.
If you don’t trust your self-evaluation then, there, is a problem. Ask a courageous person for honest feedback about yourself; no matter what people say there is more often than not, a kind of truth to be found in everything you hear, and in everything you stare at for long…
